A book that has been a HUGE help in my life when it came to relationships and finding "Mr. Right" was Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones' book, Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right.My eyes were left wide open after reading this book, as it made me realize how important my relationship with Christ is over my earthly relationships, and why it should be. It all has to start with this concept of recklessly abandoning yourself to become God's best. Only when you realize you need to do this, do you begin to find a deeper contentment in yourself, your life, and your earthly relationships.
A line in this Lady in Waiting that has struck me and stuck to me is the following:
"No one, not even the man you will marry one day, can make you happy - only Jesus can."
Wow! Talk about a heavy realization for a girl devoting her life to finding a man - but how incredibly true this is. How many of us girls have spent a good chunk of our teenage/college lives seeking Mr. Right (who we mistakenly label as our ultimate happiness)? Many girls will believe that marrying or in today's world - moving in with- a guy will save them from their awful life situations. Since when do humans have that kind of super-ability?
Guys can't do what only God can in your life.
When we trust in guys to make our lives better, we will be burned. Even the greatest of men can't give you ultimate contentment. They can't give you ultimate security. They can't fill that emptiness in your heart that you feel. Only Jesus can.
Don't rush into a relationship to find ultimate happiness. We are called to wait to prevent heartache, not to create it.
Naomi reassures Ruth in Ruth 3:18 by telling her to wait.
"Then Naomi said, 'Wait, my daughter, until you find out what happens. For the man will not rest until the matter is settled today."
If you truly trust in God to provide for your deepest needs, He will make it happen without you pressuring the situation. When you are ready to throw a man into your life, God will know it - in fact, He knows you better than you even know yourself.
Drink in this amazing contentment God has for you in your relationship with HIM. Don't go and seek contentment from guys, drugs, sex, alcohol, etc. Those things will make you happy for a short time, but God has the power to make you happy forever. Take advantage of His work in your life. Learn to open your Bible before you open a relationship with some dude. If you "don't have time to read your Bible," you certainly don't have time for guys.
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